Single Girl Traveling – Part 3

That’s it. I’m moving to the frontier.

On my recent travels I found myself in what one would call a frontier town. While having all the necessary amenities like flush toilets, sidewalks and bingo, this town is the realization of getting away from it all and starting a new life. And it was packed with men.

The gender imbalance was enormous and evident. And tremendously satisfying. “Now Single Girl,” I hear you ask, “why do you care? You’re bi!” I have often heard this before, often with the phrase “you’re doubling your odds.” I’m afraid the math says differently.

Less than 10 percent of women identify as gay or bi, and truth be told most gay women are only interested in other women who identify themselves as gay. It’s some identity thing with a club and a secret handshake that I never learned. Being bi, while incredibly fun, only adds a handful of women to the pool of men.

Since the sheer math of meeting people plays a big role in finding somebody compatible, it felt a bit exciting to be in a town with the odds stacked so in my favor. While I was used to Madison and its seeming dearth of eligible men, the tables were turned and I was the rarity. Yes, more than once the saying, “The odds may be good, but the goods may be odd” came up, but hey, this was just a vacation! Let me enjoy being drooled over before returning to the land of slim pickings!

To find out just how much the odds were stacked against me, I decided to do a little demographic digging. And, because I’m a dork, I graphed what I found:

Wait...what?! Are you seeing what I’m seeing? (And I’m not referring to how pink is women and blue is men. Those are just the colors that excel chose, and I’m not smart enough to figure out how to change them.) There are MORE single men than women in my county! Where the hell are all these men? Scattered everywhere but Madison? Is there a convent for men in the corner of the county that I don’t know about? Do you have an address?

Damn facts messing with my theory! I guess I can’t complain that the odds aren’t in my favor. But here’s what truly startled me about this graph: look at that angle toward zero! I now have graphic representation of the shrinking pool of candidates. Great.

Screw this. I’m moving to the frontier.