Since our first illuminating date, ADD boy and I have been occasionally emailing. That’s not completely accurate. This is more accurate: I would email him, and just when I would think that he’s decided to go the way of the Dodo, I would get a breathless email from him explaining how busy he is and giving a detailed recap of his life. I have been using these emails to try to get him to ask me questions or begin a conversation, to extremely limited success.
It was no surprise that I hadn’t heard from him in a week, and I had learned my lesson not to get my hopes up that I was off the hook for a second date. Until!
A friend of mine wanted to see ADD boy’s profile. I think it was mainly to see pictures of him, but to his profile we went. And behold! Right at the top: a “Spring 2010 Update,” stating that he had something going and was not interested in meeting new people. My first thought was, “Thank god! I’m off the hook!” My second thought was, “Why wouldn’t you just take your profile DOWN?”
His update mentioned something about a girl who had left but was coming back to town, a slight story change from our first date where the girl he had been dating moved out of town and wasn’t coming back. But no matter! An hour and a half of my life has been restored! And an important lesson learned about agreeing to one date at a time…
But, later, the part of me that likes to get righteously indignant got righteously indignant. “HE is finking out on our second date, and he wasn’t even going to TELL ME?! Does he somehow think a posting on his profile is an adequate explanation for why he is shirking our second date? Despite his incessant talking, he can’t muster a sentence to tell me about THIS?”
I didn’t think it would be possible for someone to ignore me, talk over me, be so disinterested in me, and yet I would allow him to ditch me.
But, later still, the part of me that is fascinated with human interactions became fascinated. I realized that this means that there is some girl out there who not only dated ADD boy, but has agreed to date him again. She’s likely doing the long-distance thing with him right now, and…who knows…maybe even changed her plans so she could be in the same city as him. While completely unfathomable to me (what could their conversations possibly be like?!), I will chalk it up to their interactions must just work. And maybe this is a point for the whole “there’s someone out there for everyone” thing.
After everything, I found myself in the unexpected position of being happy for him. And maybe I got some warm fuzzies out of it, too. Maybe just a few. Okay, two. Two warm fuzzies for the thought that there’s someone out there for him, and I might just have the same luck.
Good luck, ADD boy!
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