The Boy Looking for Friends Part 2

In the cathartic activity of blogging, I realized that I had nothing to lose by telling Friend Boy the truth. He might take offense or misread it, but as long as he had at least moderate self-confidence I figured that letting him know that I wasn’t looking for friends was better than the void of silence at which we throw all of our self-conscious fears.

Whoa...how the hell did I end up in that sentence? Oh. Friend Boy. Right.

So I emailed him a chunk of what I explained in my last post, and concluded with:

Problem is, the only way to determine someone's fabulous quotient is to meet them in a very date-like situation, which it seems you are trying to avoid.

And this is his response:

I have no objection to a date-like situation. In fact, I would say that I function at my best one on one. Historically, I keep few friends, but those friendships tend to be quite close.

Currently, I am just coming off of a long term relationship. While it ended it basically the best way that such things can end, I want to be careful that I do not enter a new relationship with undue haste. I also think it's better to find a solid friendship and build from there than to get into a situation where you might be overly intense with someone before really knowing them.

I would be glad to take you out to dinner or find a comparable activity where we could get to know each other. If this isn't really something that interests you right now, I can understand, but hope this is not the case. I'm just here to try to meet awesome people.

What is one's fabulous quotient divided against?

Okay. First, I just want to say I totally called the just-getting-out-of-a-relationship thing. Second, did you catch the nerdy math joke he ended with? Total win.

Thus I responded:

Creepiness. Fabulousness needs to always be given as a ratio to creepiness. Otherwise the far end of the bell curve is engorged with the smarmy.

I appreciate your candor. Dinner sounds great, and so does a comparable activity if something presents itself.

So what does one wear to a date-like, friend-auditioning situation?